263. How to Talk to Teens About Sex


According to recent surveys, 81 percent of boys and 71 percent of girls have had sexual intercourse by the time they reach the age of 20. Parents who know or suspect their teenager is sexually active commonly react in one of two ways. They either ignore the issue or get angry. Neither approach is likely to change matters or protect your child against the consequences of sex. The following guidelines can help parents deal with the situation calmly and intelligently.

  1. •Tell your son or daughter why you’re concerned. Don’t be judgmental.

  2. •Explain that you understand that the feelings of sexual desire and excitement are strong, but that sexual activity could result in serious consequences, like pregnancy, disease, or emotional problems.

  3. •Since you can’t be sure that your teenager will avoid intercourse, discuss birth control openly.

  4. •Teach your teenager about the symptoms, consequences, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases, and explain methods of protection.

Chapter 11

  1. A Happier, Healthier Sex Life